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Life sucks so you want to die.

For most of my life I thought these were the only two options.

If you’re struggling to hang on in life right now, wondering how you’ll make it through another day (and maybe don’t even want to much of the time), maybe this resonates with you.

Maybe you’re going through something really hard right now — grief, a breakup, losing your job —and don’t know how to cope, so the pain of it feels all-consuming and like it will never end.

Or maybe you’ve been going through something really hard your whole life, because you’ve been blessed with something like anxiety, depression, constant overthinking, or feeling so overwhelmed by everything life throws at you that you feel like you might as well check out — either by not being on the planet anymore or by “not being on the planet anymore” via drinking or drugs, losing yourself in other people, or any other number of “escapes.”

Believe me, I know what this is like.

I know what it’s like to either feel like you’re in a place of constant pain, or like things are just too much, or they will never get better, or that there’s no way out. This is how I felt for most of my life.

I also know there is another option besides “life sucks then you die” or “life sucks, might as well die.”

And I’m so excited to have the chance to share that option with you.

I’m Miles (he/they), aka The Life Sucks Coach, and I’m not some guru or “expert” in mental health (though I have studied it formally) — I’m just someone who’s lived through some serious shit and found my way through it, and am here to help you do the same — so you can make it to tomorrow, and maybe even not hate being alive for today.

Nothing I have to teach or offer you is terribly special or unique — you’ll find it in any number of self-help books, a therapist’s office, an intro-level psychology course — even in a temple or a church.

Put simply, I give you the tools and skills you need to shrink the pain in your life so it takes up less mental and emotional space, so you can add more beauty, joy, magic, wonder or whatever makes life feel worth being alive for — even if only a little, and even though life is still really fucking hard.

What I do think makes me unique is this: I think life, in general, just fucking sucks — and no amount of working on your mental or spiritual health will make it not so.

Life is full of beauty, joy, magic, wonder, YES.

It is also so so so so painful.

Loss in its endless forms plagues us, as does disappointment, rejection, heartache, betrayal, frustration, failure — and that’s not to mention current issues like the climate crisis, growing hatred, violence and fear, and war and genocide we feel powerless to stop.

On top of that, we’re all dropped here without our consent, forced to do the heavy work of trying to survive, many of us with very few resources to do so.

And of course, in the end, we are all going to die.

Even if we have the tools to cope better with the pain of life than anyone ever has before, being alive is by its very nature a painful experience, and there is no way to get around that (the Buddha said it long before I did).

So, I am not here to help you with your mental, emotional, and spiritual health in hopes that eventually your life will be sunshine and rainbows all of the time.

Life is not (only) sunshine and rainbows.

But here’s the thing: life doesn’t have to NOT SUCK in order for there to be moments that make you feel glad you are alive.

What it does have to do, though, is suck LESS.

Just less enough to make room for something besides pain.

That may not sound like much to work towards, but for people like you and me, who have spent much of our lives feeling like the only options are pain or death, this can be everything.

It can be the difference between “Life sucks, might as well die” and “Life sucks, but maybe it’s more than that too, and maybe I’m gonna be lucky enough to get to experience it while I’m still alive.”

And this is what I’m here to help you achieve.

Head over to my services page to learn more about how I can help and get started.

In the meantime, hang in there. You’ve got this, and you’re not alone.

— Miles