the life sucks coach
photography by and of me 🙂
About me
Hi, I’m Miles (he/they), aka The Life Sucks Coach.
The Life Sucks Coach was born out of a lifetime of super shitty things happening to me and having to figure out how to survive them, combined with a deep-desire-bordering-on-calling to help alleviate the suffering of others.
Whether it’s external circumstances or internal battles that are making your life suck, I’m glad you’re here and excited to have the chance to help you find your way through it.
A little bit about my background:
I have a formal educational background in psychology, chaplaincy, and theology and the arts, plus a broad array of other trainings, academic interests and pursuits under my belt that inform the work I do.
I’ve also had a hard life — not as hard as some, but really fucking hard nonetheless.
Throughout my life I’ve had to deal with things like poverty, addiction, sexual abuse, domestic violence, mental illness, bullying, grief and loss, and navigating changing sexual and gender identities — among many other things. And most of the time, I was dealing with this stuff on my own.
Needless to say I’ve been through some shit. And yet despite the odds, I’ve made it to today.
More than that though, after decades of suffering to the point of not wanting to be here anymore, I’ve somehow managed to learn how to have a life where I’m not just making it through another day, but actually finding good and beautiful moments in my life, things that make me feel glad to be alive, even if just for a moment — even when things fucking suck.
Now I’m here to help you have the same thing for your life.
Believe me when I say, I KNOW that life fucking sucks.
But I also know it can suck so much less.
And I’m excited to have the opportunity to teach you how — so you can make it to tomorrow, and maybe even not hate being alive for today.
Check out my services page to learn how I can help and get started.
Thank you for being here with me and trusting me to be with you on this path.
Hang in there — we’ve got this.
Miles
My values
Authenticity
I believe in meeting people where they are, without sugarcoating or glossing over the hard stuff. My goal is to create a space where you can bring your whole self—messiness, struggles, and all.
Compassion and Respect
Everyone’s experience is valid, and I approach each person with deep respect for their unique journey. Compassion is at the heart of my work, and I’m committed to supporting you in a way that feels true to who you are, no matter your identity, background, or beliefs.
Non-Judgement and Inclusivity
This is a space that embraces and celebrates the full spectrum of identities. I know firsthand what it’s like to navigate life as a person who is queer/trans, poor, disabled, and more, and I’m dedicated to making sure you feel safe, respected, and seen here—exactly as you are. Bigotry, discrimination, intolerance and hatred have no place in this space, and anyone seeking to challenge that will be shown the door.
Empowerment
I believe that you have the ability to navigate your own life and make choices that work for you. My role is to offer guidance, tools, and support, not to impose solutions or tell you what’s best—only you know that.
Irreverence and Dark Humor
I have a naturally edgy sense of humor, and a lifetime of shitty things happening to me has only made it even sharper. I believe in being respectful and kind but I don’t believe in being “polite” or “proper” or holding back my irreverent personality or morbid sense of humor to fit societal norms of what’s “acceptable.” You are more than welcome here if you are the same!
Integrity and Transparency
I approach this work with honesty and openness. I’ll be straightforward about what I can offer, and I’ll respect your boundaries and autonomy at every step of the way.
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