the life sucks coach
helping you make it to tomorrow when you don't want to be here today
photography by and of me 🙂
About me
Hi, I’m Miles (they/he), aka The Life Sucks Coach™.
I know what it’s like to feel like things are too fucking much and life is too fucking hard to keep going.
Alongside the everyday pain we all endure by simply being alive, I’ve experienced—and survived—childhood trauma, poverty, domestic abuse, mental illness, grief and loss, drug and alcohol dependence, navigating life as a queer and trans person, and more. And for decades, I could barely cope.
Not because I was broken or because I was some kind of failure, but because no one ever taught me the skills and tools I needed to deal with things that hurt.
So I white-knuckled my way through, convinced life was nothing but pain and dealing with pain—and that things would never get better.
But eventually, after decades of barely surviving, things did get better.
Not because the pain stopped—my life and the world still throw unimaginably hard things at me all the time.
But because I finally learned the right skills, acquired the right tools, and had the right support to help me not just get through, but have a life beyond just pain, even when things still hurt.
That’s what I want to offer you.
I started The Life Sucks Coach to help people who are suffering like I’ve suffered.
Because yes—life is fucking painful. And it always will be.
But it doesn’t have to kill you, and it doesn’t have to feel this bad forever.
You can have a life that doesn’t suck so much, even when it still sucks.
And I can show you how.
This work draws on everything I’ve had to teach myself in order to survive—along with my formal background in psychology, spiritual care (non-religious), and the arts; my love of television and storytelling; and a naturally irreverent, often dark sense of humor–to offer support that’s real, raw, and honest, without pretending everything’s okay, or that everything happens for a reason.
Instead, I help you learn how to live with the painful reality of being a human in a broken world—and how to make it hurt just a little bit less.
So you can survive. And maybe even not resent the fact that you’re still here.
I’d be so happy to share what I’ve created with you.
I’m really glad you’re here, and I can’t wait to get started.
—Miles
My values
Raw and Real
I believe in meeting people where they are, without sugarcoating or glossing over the hard stuff. My goal is to create a space where you can bring your whole self—messiness, struggles, and all — and feel safe, seen (if you want to be), and understood.
Non-Judgement and Inclusivity
This is a space that embraces and celebrates the full spectrum of identities. I know firsthand what it’s like to navigate life as a person who is queer/trans, poor, disabled, and more, and I’m dedicated to making sure you feel safe and respected here—exactly as you are. Bigotry, discrimination, intolerance and hatred have no place in this space, and anyone seeking to challenge that can get right the fuck out.
Empowerment
I believe that you have the ability to navigate your own life and make choices that work for you. My role is to offer guidance, tools, and support, not to impose solutions or tell you what’s best—only you know that.
Irreverence and Dark Humor
I have a naturally edgy sense of humor, and a lifetime of shitty things happening to me has only made it even sharper. I believe in being respectful and kind but I don’t believe in being “polite” or “proper”, or holding back my irreverent personality, to fit societal norms of what’s “acceptable.” You are more than welcome here if you are the same!
Integrity and Transparency
I approach this work with honesty and openness. I’ll be straightforward about what I can offer, and I’ll respect your boundaries and autonomy at every step of the way.
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