the life sucks coach
helping you make it to tomorrow when you don't want to be here today
photography by and of me 🙂
About me
Hi, I’m Miles (he/they), aka The Life Sucks Coach™.
The Life Sucks Coach was born out of a lifetime of super shitty things happening to me that I often had to cope with on my own, combined with a deep desire-bordering-on-calling to help alleviate the suffering of others, and a lifelong frustration with the help available to people like me (poor, irreverent, untrusting of people, and often smarter than the therapists I tried to go to) along with the many shortcomings and harmful aspects of the mental health industrial complex that no one else ever seems to acknowledge.
Basically, I created what I wish I had had when I was first trying to “figure my shit out” and learning how to survive in this difficult world with a fucked up brain, sensitive heart, and broken spirit.
I have an educational background in psychology, spiritual care, and the arts, all of which inform the work I do, but it’s my lived experience that I think has best prepared me to work with people like me (and you?).
Throughout my life I’ve endured and survived poverty, addiction, sexual abuse, domestic violence, mental illness, bullying, grief and loss, and navigating changing sexual and gender identities — among many other things.
Needless to say I’ve been through some shit. And yet despite the odds, I’m still here.
So I figured I can take what I know from my own experience and combine it with my formal education to make something unconventional that can help people get through hard shit too.
Believe me when I say, I KNOW that life fucking sucks.
But I also know from first-had experience it can suck less, and you can make it through.
Check out my services page to learn how I can help and get started.
Thank you for being here with me and trusting me to help.
Hang in there — you’re going to make it.
Miles
My values
Raw and Real
I believe in meeting people where they are, without sugarcoating or glossing over the hard stuff. My goal is to create a space where you can bring your whole self—messiness, struggles, and all.
Compassion and Respect
Everyone’s experience is valid, and I approach each person with deep respect for their unique journey. Compassion is at the heart of my work, and I’m committed to supporting you in a way that feels true to who you are, no matter your identity, background, or beliefs.
Non-Judgement and Inclusivity
This is a space that embraces and celebrates the full spectrum of identities. I know firsthand what it’s like to navigate life as a person who is queer/trans, poor, disabled, and more, and I’m dedicated to making sure you feel safe, respected, and seen here—exactly as you are. Bigotry, discrimination, intolerance and hatred have no place in this space, and anyone seeking to challenge that will be shown the door.
Empowerment
I believe that you have the ability to navigate your own life and make choices that work for you. My role is to offer guidance, tools, and support, not to impose solutions or tell you what’s best—only you know that.
Irreverence and Dark Humor
I have a naturally edgy sense of humor, and a lifetime of shitty things happening to me has only made it even sharper. I believe in being respectful and kind but I don’t believe in being “polite” or “proper” or holding back my irreverent personality or morbid sense of humor to fit societal norms of what’s “acceptable.” You are more than welcome here if you are the same!
Integrity and Transparency
I approach this work with honesty and openness. I’ll be straightforward about what I can offer, and I’ll respect your boundaries and autonomy at every step of the way.
Sign up for my newsletter
My newsletter is the best way to stay in touch. I’ll let you know about new content, including secular sermons, essays, and workshops, share what’s helping me get through the dark times, and send out bonus content when the mood strikes 🙂